Shaking babies and banging metal right next to their heads. Sounds like an easy way to lose custody and a fast ticket to family court. Think again. In fact, these are two of the main components of one of Egypt's most traditional ceremonies.
Last night I was invited to a party to celebrate Sawsan’s cousin’s new baby known as Sebou’. This traditional ceremony has roots in Pharonic times and is celebrated by both Muslims and Christians in Egypt exactly seven days after the baby is born. Instead of the American tradition of a baby shower before the actual birth (which is often seen as presumptuous to assume the baby will be born and healthy) this is how the Egyptians welcome a new baby to their crazy world.
After chatting it up with the entire extended family (and explaining to them who the heck I was) and of course after Turkish coffee, a round of tea, a few traditional desserts specific to the occasion, and the initial ogling over baby Malik and stuffing money in his blanket… it was time for the festivities to start.
To set the scene, the baby is given its own little shrine consisting of an ornate bassinet suffocated by about 20 yards of white lace and taffeta next to a giant candle/statue about 3 feet tall. This traditional object used to be very different but is now obviously manufactured somewhere in China and looked like a giant candlestick covered in blue pompoms with a plastic baby doll and flashing Christmas lights. As soon as my eyes met this little shrine, I knew I was in for a good time.
The ceremony itself is pretty short, maybe only 15 minutes in total. First baby Malik is placed on the ground in his little decorated container while his grandmother bangs a brass mortar and pestle to make music and his mother steps over him seven times. In the meanwhile everyone is singing, chanting, and the older women make all sorts of loud screams and noises (to supposedly train the baby to be aware of sounds). In between the mother stepping over the baby, the grandmother repeatedly shouts things to the baby such as, “listen to your mother” and “listen to your father” and shakes him (sort of gently).. The whole time everyone else follows around with lit candles, including the little kids, and I have NO idea how no one/nothing caught on fire. Let’s just say the proximity of faces to candles, hair to candles and furniture to candles that occurred in that apartment would never be allowed by American parents.
But back to the main event. For the next part, the new and proud mother carries around baby Malik out the door and into the hallways while the women follow (still with candles) shouting, singing, and throwing salt and lentils to ward off the evil eye. This procession is to make the baby aware of its surroundings and so it knows how to find its home.
And that’s about all there is to it. However, I just want to point out one more thing: it was loud. I mean, LOUD. Screaming, singing, music blaring from the speakers, banging brass, laughing, shouting, you name it.. and baby Malik didn’t even flinch. Amazing. He seemed completely un-phased. He was definitely living up to the meaning of his name, king.
It was an amazing experience to see such a traditional ceremony in such a completely different culture. And if the party wasn’t enough, they insisted on giving me a goodie bag of popcorn, candies, nuts, and a candleholder.
A wonderful night with a wonderful family.